Importance of Fathers

The Importance of Fathers
(by Mr. Phil Kosloski)
In our culture today, fathers are becoming less and less a part of our children’s lives. Currently, 40 percent of American children do not grow up with their biological father. That number is on the rise as more and more couples choose the lifestyle of cohabitation and decide not to get married at all. Since the men in those relationships are not bound by any marriage vows, they feel less responsibility to stick around, especially if the marriage or childrearing starts to get tough. What are the results of fatherless homes? Let’s take a look at the statistics: (these statistics are taken from numerous psychological studies, if you want the details, ask me for the sources)

85% of criminals come from fatherless homes
90% of homeless come from fatherless homes
73% of drug addicts come from fatherless homes
63% of youth suicides come from fatherless homes
80% of rapists come from fatherless homes
Children, particularly boys, from divorced families score lower on average on
reading and math tests
72% of adolescent murderers grew up without fathers
98% of children where the father does not go to Mass (even if the mother does) will never attend Mass regularly once they leave home

Why is this the case? Let’s take a little lesson from nature: several decades ago there was a problem with overpopulation on an African game preserve—too many elephants. Limited by the technology available at the time, the solution arrived at was to move the babies to new preserves. Everyone watched, gravely concerned, but the babies thrived. However, unintended consequences emerged. At the new locations, a decade or so after the transfer, someone was killing off rhinoceros which are an endangered species. It turned out the killers were young male elephants. At first the game wardens couldn’t believe it, this was uncharacteristic behavior never before seen in elephants. They deduced that the young males had grown up without fathers—without male role models. New technology had made it possible to transport into these locations some large mature bull elephants. There was concern that it would be too late, but they tried it anyway. It worked like a charm. The mature bulls arrived and set things straight. The young males immediately stopped their precocious, rampant sexuality, killing and violence. And so it goes. Daddies do matter, even in elephants. (Story taken from 60 Minutes)

Now that we have addressed the problem, let us also try to fix it. Here are a few resources for men. Too often men live their lives as if they were perpetual adolescent teenagers and not REAL MEN.
So men, let’s truly MAN UP!


Besides these, see some great book suggestions for men from the Knights of Columbus Book Club

St. Joseph Covenant Keepers
Includes some of the best resources available for Struggling with Pornography and Purity
Catholic Men's Quarterly
The King's Men
Building men to serve Christ
E5 Men
Catholic Mountain
Embracing the adventure of Christian manhood

Knights of Divine Mercy

Esto Vir

The National Resource Center for Catholic Men (NRCCM)

Men of Christ

Art of Manliness
While this resource is entirely "secular" I do recommend it as it offers a lot of practical advice about being man that we have simply lost through the decades. However, there are a few things that are not in keeping with the Catholic Church (hence it is a secular source), but overall it does promote virtue inline with Christianity and is a great resource for traditions of men that have been lost by the culture.